An interesting discussion occurred at the office about the recent philandering by celebrity men. What do you do with your cheat?

Let’s face it, the commenters (mostly women) have overwhelmingly decided that Sandra Bullock and Elin Woods should leave their men. Most of the women around here feel the same way. Two years ago I would have sided with the majority. Two years ago I would have looked at Sandra Bullock and Elin with disdain if they stayed. Now, I think to walk out JUST BECAUSE of infidelity is stupid.

Hear me out.

Let me start by saying that I in no way condone what Jesse or Tiger did. @ssholes the two of them. To cheat is bad, but to cheat with the common gutter trash these two picked up. God help the wives. I’d be shocked if STDs didn’t get passed around.

That being said, it’s easy for another woman to tell a woman she should leave. Too easy.

The people I work for, and their clients are the private planes, trips to Vegas every month sort of people. Men with money. With respect to the Tiger situation, here’s what they said: “Women want things”. Yes that’s what they reduced this f*ckery to. One gentleman went on to say that women used to get married to get things (they’re of an older generation); today women would rather get on their backs or knees to get things when they can’t get them themselves. And a lot of wives realize that their ability to get things will greatly diminish as a divorcée. In other words, these men have great pre-nups and the wives aren’t going anywhere. I think Elin falls into that category.

Her whole family benefits from Tiger’s money. They’ve been photographed at some of the most exclusive resorts in the world. And I don’t think any of them can afford it on their own. So for Elin to leave, the whole family gets screwed. Yes that’s a horrible reason to stay. But poor men cheat too (probably not as much as Tiger did, and probably with a better class of woman, but they do). So who is to say she’d be any happier?

Sandra is a trickier situation. Sandra has her own everything. She doesn’t need Jesse for anything but companionship. So the question is, was Sandra happy in her relationship for the past 5 years? If the world didn’t know, just her alone, would she stay? Sandra is 45 years old, I’m sure lots of men will line up to date her, but does she really want to be going through all of the dating bullsh*t at that age? And what about Jesse’s kid? Little Sunny will be left with a pornstar mom with an addiction problem and a man who didn’t have enough common sense to not give his kid a stripper name. Jebus Sandra, if you leave, at least take Sunny with you.

Maybe my singledom has finally addled my brain. Maybe I’m being ridiculous. And I know I'm over simplifying both situations. But once you get over the embarrassment, which I think is just as big a sin than the infidelity, what’s left? Embarrassment fades, trust can be rebuilt...loneliness can last a lifetime.